The Future (Mennonite) Church

greendoveI’ve been told to come to the Mennonite Church USA Future Church Summit with a smile, ready to make new friends. And I will.

I basically smile all the time anyway;that’s just how my face looks. Honestly, I have to try hard to not smile at inappropriate times like funerals or public scoldings.

Also, I like friends and am happy to make new ones.

So I will bring my friendly smile to the Summit. I will also bring my deep longings for the future of my church: that we might be a truly inclusive, Christ-centered, joy filled, community of faith.

If you know me at all, you will not be surprised to learn that I have A LOT of ideas for the future of our church. And I could list any number of policy (and staffing) recommendations that I think would move us toward a more faithful future. But I won’t go into those here. (If you’re lucky enough to be at my table during the FCS, you might get to hear some of them. Though, in addition to being told to smile, participants have also been instructed to listen more and talk less. So I will, as always, try to follow the rules.)

Rather than addressing specifics, I want to address two pervasive denominational frameworks that prevent us from truly moving forward.

rainbow bibleFramework #1: False Equivalencies of Harm

The current narrative from denominational leaders is that the harm done to two particular groups of people in the church is equivalent:

  • people who hold “traditional” views of sexuality and marriage are harmed when people disagree with their theology, when people tell them they are wrong, when they have to be church with LGBTQ people and their allies
  • LGBTQ people are harmed when they are denied full inclusion in the church, when they must defend themselves and their relationships if they want to participate in the church at all, when they are told that part of their essential identity is unacceptable to God.

Please look over these two lists again and hear me very clearly: These harms are not equal.

I had a conversation several years ago with conservative pastors who told me that their young people didn’t feel “safe” at Mennonite colleges. They were “not safe” because they might have professors who presented views different from what their church had taught them; because there might be actual gay people on campus; because some other students might challenge them on or even become angry with them about their views on sexuality. So they did not feel “safe.”

But when LGBTQ people say they do not feel “safe” in Mennonite spaces, it means that they fear being stalked, harassed, humiliated, excluded, and possibly even physically assaulted. These are all experiences that queer people have had in Mennonite spaces. We’re talking about two very different kinds of “safety.” Two very different kinds of harm.

Most recently, we see this false equivalency implied in the recent Executive Board statement regarding the suspension of Doug Basinger’s appointment to the Leadership Discernment Committee:

Most of the EB members learned of the nominee’s sexual orientation and marital status some days after the board meeting. Because of its care for the nominee as well as the whole church, the board carefully weighed the options for dealing with this controversial matter.

Do you hear that? The board considers the harm done to conservative Mennonites who would learn that a gay person is on a denominational committee to bear equal weight with the harm done to Doug himself and all other LGBTQ people when denominational leadership rejects the clearly evident gifts being offered for the service of the church.

If we want to move forward as a church, we cannot continue to present these false equivalencies of harm. We have to be willing to truly evaluate and repent of the deep harm we have done and continue to do with our anti-lgbtq teachings, attitudes, and policies.

 

Framework #2: Everyone Must be Happy

rainbow doveWhile I do believe that Doug and other LGBTQ Mennonites are the people most deeply harmed by the recent board actions, I understand that harm has also been done to some people on the Executive Board. The painful situation of Doug’s appointment and subsequent suspension is partially a result of the desire of MCUSA leaders to keep everyone happy.

Because of this desire for happiness—sometimes explicitly stated as a desire to not offend anyone—the denomination does not have a formal policy banning LGBTQ people from serving on MCUSA committees. But they also have never appointed an out LGBTQ Mennonite to any committees.

So inclusive folks should be happy, because there’s no prohibitive policy. And traditionalist folks should be happy because there are no actual gay people serving at the national level.

Setting aside the significant theological problems of this approach—especially for Anabaptists,–let’s focus here on the hot mess our denomination has become as a result of this particular leadership strategy.

Doug’s appointment and suspension is just one example.

  • Because there is no formal policy against LGBTQ people serving the church, and because (I assume) board members do not generally specify information about a nominee’s sex life when presenting them for consideration, some board members believe there was no requirement to mention the fact that Doug is gay when he was originally nominated and approved for the Leadership Discernment Committee.
  • Because we still have language in the Confession of Faith and Membership Guidelines that indicates a denominational stance against homosexuality, and because no person identifying as LGBTQ has ever been appointed to an MCUSA committee, some board members believe that Doug should have been specifically identified as gay when he was nominated .

Based on the messages we receive from denominational leadership, both groups of people are right. And now it’s all a hot, oppressive, mess.

We’ve seen this same strategy fail miserably before—when MCUSA leadership introduced the Membership Guidelines resolution in Kansas City in an attempt to mitigate the “damage” of the Forbearance resolution and appease conservatives. This resulted in an emotionally and spiritually traumatic experience for many LGBTQ Mennonites, some of whom have left the Mennonite church entirely and many of whom cannot bear another convention.

And–you all might remember this–Lancaster Conference left the denomination anyway.

We see leadership struggling with this “make everyone happy” strategy as it applies to processing Ministerial Leadership Information forms. So now they have created a system that I know does not make inclusive folks happy. And I doubt traditionalists are very happy about it either.

That’s the problem. When you try to make everyone happy, you often end up making nobody happy. And a lot of people angry and alienated. 

More importantly, when your goal becomes making everybody happy, you become obsessed with walking a very thin (probably non-existent) line. You start to believe that avoiding offense is the same thing as being faithful to Jesus Christ. (Spoiler alert for those who haven’t read the Gospels: It’s not.)

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13 thoughts on “The Future (Mennonite) Church

  1. Joanna, As a conservative Mennonite and LGBT identifier, I must admit I find a lot of fault with your comparison between the two groups; LGBT and the conservative Mennonites. I myself am much more afraid of the so-called Mennonites and non-Mennonites that we allow to have input into church decisions made at the college level. I am much more fearful of some of the actual physical attacks and people who have gathered in mass to picket me for my views against Mennonite Church USA, and have only had one person ever come against my views on homosexuality, and they happened to be a dear friend who I had no fear of. If there are students who attend our Mennonite colleges who have fear about being LGBT and that they will be attacked, then we seriously have to evaluate our college administrators’ approach. If this is the case, then discipline must be had. If Mennonites go into a Mennonite college with fear of violence, then I am flabbergasted. (Really, I just don’t buy it.) The real problem, then, would be that the student had not been taught a way of non-violence and that they hold presuppositions of anger in their heart. There is NOTHING about of the Mennonite Church USA colleges that would suggest them to be violent places. Yes, there are students at a couple of the colleges that have been violent, but I think that issue is unrelated, and that we need to do a better job of screening students before admission. (A lot of unrelated issues!)

    As for Mennonite Church USA, I do agree that there is way to much focus on these little bits and pieces of people’s lives instead of doing what the Bible says the church is to do. My suggestion would be that Mennonite Church USA picks up their Bibles, stops trying to use their feeble human minds to try and “discern and interpret” what God wants of them. The scriptures give all we need!

    • Billy, thank you for your comment. I specifically used the term “Mennonite spaces” rather than “colleges”–some of the incidents I know of occurred at an earlier convention. I also assume (based on your profile picture) that you are significantly younger than me and so am hopeful that the threat of physical violence in Mennonite spaces may have diminished.

    • Billy, as a lesbian who was verbally abused, silenced, gaslighted and much more at a Mennonite college and physically assaulted at the last convention, I would caution against claiming you “just don’t buy it” simply because you haven’t experienced it or don’t believe the people who have.

  2. Thank you, Joanna, for wading through the murky language that tries to abate everyone in MCUSA. Doug is a pleasure to work with, having spent the last 2-3 years on a Spiritual Leadership Team together at Seattle Mennonite Church. I am appaulled that nominating someone from the LGBTQ community to the Executive Committee Committee is seen as being ‘controversial’.

  3. Yes you are correct that LMC and others left MCUSA after Kansas City anyway. I left my MCUSA congregation in Kansas and my home congregation in Ohio left MCUSA too. There will never be a bridge wide enough to span the chasm of those who believe same sex relationships to be a sin and those that are pressing to have it accepted in the church even as pastors and leaders. We have responsibilities to raise our children with what we believe to be what the Bible says. Yes we understand that you think sex is an identity and not a behavior. We disagree. We will always disagree. MCUSA will eventually only be those conferences and congregations that will accept same sex relationships as non-sin. Every one else will leave. Just like the Anabaptists of the 16th century left the Roman Catholic church when it became impossible to tolerate as well. We are not being hateful. We are trying to be faithful. Yes, you’ve heard our side and we’ve heard yours. There is no middle ground to find.

    • I really like the idea of separating (“Every one else will leave.”) It would allow all to move forward as their beliefs and faith direct them. I see very little down-side.

  4. Preaching to the choir. I notice that false comparison between different types of harm so often and it’s really disturbing. Sure, it hurts to be confronted with people who challenge your beliefs and it might even make you feel threatened. Challenging someone’s privilege does indeed threaten their position. But that does not mean that such a ‘threat’ or harm can ever be equated to the types of physical and mental harm caused by oppression and discrimination.

  5. Thanks, Joanna. Linda, you may be right about there being no middle ground. On the other hand, I wonder why we can’t occupy common ground, despite differences. Yes, we are all trying to be faithful. But some may also be trying to be untainted and fear guilt by association. I don’t see that as a legitimate fear, assuming a gracious Judge. Neither do I see it as the pattern Jesus modeled for disciples. I try to see believers who differ from me as assets; they keep me honest, a little on edge about my convictions, which seems healthy insofar as I hold them by faith, not certainty. Others’ otherness broadens my imagined horizons even as I remain steadfast, let alone if I convert. That’s the generous spirit I try to cultivate and animate. (Of course, I have my better and worse moments in this.) I realize that being “of one mind” is a biblical ideal/goal, but I wonder if Paul and others who espoused it might have meant something other than what we think (or might have been wrong, throwing out babies with bathwater when people with differences couldn’t handle conflict without indulging in fight-or-flight/unloving divisiveness).

  6. Joanna, I really like and appreciate your humble, gentle and sensitive approach to this topic. I pray with you that our church – we struggle with this in Canada too – will see its way to joyful jul inclusion sooner rather than later. Meanwhile, I lament the harm done to the LGBTQ and their friends and families, especially loving parents and can only pray for forgiveness for hurts inflicted by all the well-meaning people in our church.

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