What Not to Say: #5

I came across a bit of validation for this little blog series the other day. In Christ Plays in Ten Thousand Places, Eugene Peterson writes, “We cannot be too careful about the words we use; we start out using them and they end up using us.” All of this thinking about how to talk to…

What Not to Say: #4

This is another phrase that can be heard coming from all sides of the conversation. I personally heard it a lot at the Western District Conference assembly. Problematic phrase #4: It’s not personal. The bottom line is that this phrase is problematic because it is simply not true. For more detailed reflections, see the blog…

What not to Say: #1 & #2

As I talk with different people about how to include sexual minorities in the church, there are certain words and phrases that get repeated. And many of them are not helpful.  You probably won’t be surprised to know that I have a pretty long list of things we need to quit saying to each other.…