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Remember and Remind–Thoughts on Easter

455623650*Below is the last part of my Easter sermon from this past Sunday (Luke 24:1-12). You can find the entire sermon here.

I know that Easter sermons usually focus on the women–their faithfulness, their witness. Or maybe on the men and their disbelief. Or, if we preachers just want to go for the obvious, we focus on the resurrection itself. The fact of real and true and eternal life no matter how real and true and eternal death might seem. It’s all true and important and holy.

But this year, I’m really struck by these men in glowing robes. To be honest, I’ve never paid a whole lot of attention to them before. But this year I’m haunted by their word: remember. Because it is at once so simple and so hard. To remember.

We are certainly capable of forgetting things we have heard and seen. And we are also capable of remembering things that never happened.

Remember. It seems simple and easy. But it is actually hard and complicated. And so, so important. Remembering is important for who we are now, in the moment. And it is important for who we will be in the future; for how our world is and how our world will be.

As people of faith, or even as people who think we want to try to be people of faith, remembering is essential.

Jesus participated regularly in the festivals of his Jewish faith that recounted the stories of scripture. Festivals including Passover, in which the story of the Israelites’ escape from Egypt is remembered amongst the Jewish people.

It was at a Passover meal that Jesus spoke the words that Christians hear at the communion table, “Do this in remembrance of me.”

Remember.

It seems that we all need help with this essential commandment. Because it’s not as easy as it seems.

Remember.

Like what we do here, together. In many ways it seems a simple thing. What we do in this place each week. We gather. We read words from the scripture. We tell stories. We share pieces, small pieces, of our lives. We give each other blessing and wish each other peace.

We help each other remember.

Because when we are living real lives; when we are sad and scared and confused and exhausted, it is all too easy to forget. Easy to forget even the most important things.

That God is good.

That you are loved.

That light shines in the darkness.

That life has defeated death.

“Remember how he told you, while he was still in Galilee, that the Son of Man must be handed over to sinners, and be crucified, and on the third day rise again.”

Then they remembered Jesus’ words.”

Even standing in front of the empty tomb, as we are today, it can be hard to remember.

And, assuming no people in glowing clothes come walking through the door–or falling from the ceiling–might I suggest that we can be those messengers to each other. We can speak the words of life to each other. We can tell the stories. We can prompt the remembering.

On this Easter morning, I give thanks to God for the amazing, saving, life-giving power of the resurrection. And I give thanks to God that I have you–each of you–with whom I can gather to remember. Let us remember together. Let us remind each other: Christ is risen!

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Wednesday Worship Pieces: Church Celebration

church bigThis Sunday we are celebrating the work of our little church and encouraging people to step forward and serve according to their gifts and passions. Here are some of the worship pieces we will be using:

–One of my favorite calls to worship from Ann B. Day, which you can find here.

–A hymn I wrote with another church member, which is here.

–This prayer of thanksgiving (adapted from an earlier post):

Dear God, giver of life, for each and every part of this church body
We give you thanks.
For those who teach and those who learn. For those who speak and those who listen.
We thank you Jesus, holy teacher.
For those who lead and those who follow. For those working up front and those working in the background.
We give you thanks, O Spirit who enables all work.
For those who share gifts of writing, drawing, sewing, cooking, singing, playing instruments, gardening, and all spirit-filled creative endeavors
We thank you, our Creator God.
For those who share gifts of administration, organization, planning, visioning, coordinating, hospitality, wisdom, discernment, faith, knowledge and all godly attributes necessary to the well being of this body
We give you thanks, O Word of light.
For those who give their time and money; who do what needs done: moving chairs, fixing toilets, caring for children, conducting worship, distributing mail, making phone calls, paying bills,
We thank you, the Giver of all Good things.
For those who share your love and care with others by praying, smiling, hugging, baking, laughing, reaching out and settling in,

We give you thanks, Holy Spirit, our bond of unity.
We thank you for each part of Peace Mennonite church, and we thank you for your power and grace that forms the parts into something more than we could ever be on our own–participants in the Body of Christ.
Amen

–This prayer of confession & assurance of pardon (opening line from 1 Peter 4:10):

Holy One,
We long to be faithful stewards of your abundant grace.

To serve each other in love and humility.
To serve your world with wisdom and energy.

Forgive us when we stumble over pride,
when our words and actions are not guided by love.

Turn our hearts when we act in folly.
Restore our energy when it is gone.

Sometimes, many times, O God, our efforts fail.
But your abundant grace is strong and eternal,
And forgiveness is ours through Jesus Christ.
Thanks be to God.
Amen.

–And this offertory prayer:

God, whose giving knows no ending,
we offer up the treasure that you have entrusted to us;
we offer up the skills and time that you have graciously given to us;
we offer up ourselves in service and praise.
Receive these gifts by your grace.
Multiply and use them through the power of the Holy Spirit
to accomplish Christ’s work of love in the world. Amen.

*As always, you are welcome to use these pieces in your own worship setting. Attribution is appreciated.

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For Election Day Communion

For I received from the Lord what I also handed on to you, that the Lord Jesus on the night when he was betrayed took a loaf of bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it and said, ‘This is my body that is for you. Do this in remembrance of me.’ In the same way he took the cup also, after supper, saying, ‘This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.’ For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes. (I Corinthians 11:23-26)

Election Day Communion is a national movement of Christians who want to declare our allegiance to Christ over and above our allegiance to a particular political party–or even a particular nation. When I last checked the Election Day Communion website, there were 835 groups who had signed up as participants in this event.

That means that on election night, there will be tens of thousands of Christians gathering together around the Lord’s Table. Tens of thousands of Christians who will share the bread and the cup as brothers and sisters–despite political differences. Tens of thousands of voices raised to heaven praying, “Thy kingdom come, thy will be done.”

There will be tens of thousands of Christians across the country remembering together, entering together into the story of what happened with Jesus and his disciples on the night that Jesus was betrayed.

This is the story we are choosing–the story we tell at the Lord’s Table.

For months now politicians, unions, corporations, Facebook friends, have been trying to get us to participate in their stories. So many different stories; all wanting our buy-in–our agreement, our money, our vote.

Stories of a successfully recovering economy and stories of failed economic policies.

Stories of family values and stories of civil rights.

Stories of the war on women and stories of the evils of abortion.

Stories of care for the vulnerable and stories of entitlement programs.

Stories of environmental responsibility and stories of the need for job creation.

We’ve heard so many stories. And we hear them all in the context of our own unique life stories. The stories we live affect the stories we believe. And my guess is that, if you vote, the stories you believe play a big role in who you vote for.

It is fine to go to the voting booth. But it is more important to come to the Table. Our presence at the Table bears witness to the fact that whatever social, political, moral, economic stories we might believe, this is the central story for our lives. This is the Story by which all other stories are measured. This story of God’s deep love for us in creation, in covenant, and ultimately, in Jesus Christ.  This story that proclaims Good News, freedom, healing. This story that proclaims a love stronger than hate, a life bigger than ourselves, a power stronger than death.

It is this story of the life, death, and resurrection of Christ that claims our allegiance. Now and always. Amen.

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Money, the Church, and those Dang Brass Plaques

A few weeks ago I was a guest in a church. A church of kind-hearted, hospitable people, I’m sure. At some point, as is to be expected, my tiny bladder and I needed to use the bathroom. I did not use the main bathroom with stalls and fake flowers and smelly lotion. I used the little bathroom off of the kitchen. The toilet in a closet.

And right there, gleaming in gold against the shining white top of the porcelain toilet tank, was a brass sign. You’ve seen these little plaques in churches before: “In memory of Mary Jane Schilermacher.”*

I couldn’t help but wonder how old Mary Jane feels about all of her Christian brothers and sisters (and let’s be honest here, especially the brothers who will be facing the toilet as they pee) thinking of her each time they look at this toilet.

A few months ago I was a guest at another church. A church of Jesus-loving, justice-living people. And I noticed a nice sign in front of the building. The kind of sign that sits heavily on the ground. The kind with a clear cover that you can unlock and change the big black letters inside: “Honk if you love Jesus.”** Below the panel with the big black letters was a little brass plaque: “In memory of Vernon P. Buttlebitter.”***

I couldn’t help but wonder what passers by thought of this plaque. Maybe Mr. Buttlebitter was an exemplary human being and his name on the sign encouraged people to attend this church. But I never met the deceased Mr. Buttlebitter, and my thoughts were more along the lines of, “Why can’t people just give money for a sign and leave off the distracting plaque?”.

Our small and growing congregation is in the midst of discernment about how to access more space for Christian formation and worship. These discussions are reminding me how emotional we can get about money. How much fear it can cause. How much anxiety. How much pride and shame and guilt.

Some people have money, and they don’t want to give it. Other people don’t have money, and they want to give it. Which means that basically everyone is uncomfortable talking about it.

But money is just money. We need a certain amount of it to live in our culture. We need it to feed people and clothe people and provide medical care. We need it to buy or rent spaces for education and worship. We need it to pay the water bill and the electricity bill and the babysitter.

Yes. We need money. But if we are going to go around slapping plaques on everything in and around the church building that represents the contributions of faithful and generous people, we’ll need to substantially increase our plaque budget.

We’ll need plaques on the rosebushes in honor of all the gardeners who plant, water, and weed. Plaques on the clean floors, for the volunteer who cleans them every week. Plaques on the pulpit for everyone who reads scripture and preaches the word. Plaques on my children’s foreheads in honor of every Sunday School teacher they’ve ever had, everyone in the church who has taken them out for ice cream or sat down for a heart to heart.

We could litter our church buildings with plaques. Or we could just go faithfully about our business of being the body of Christ. Each contributing what we can, knowing that, by God’s grace, it is enough.

 

*This is not the real name on the toilet plaque.
**This is not really what the sign said.
***This is not the real name on the sign plaque, either. It’s not that I’m trying to protect anonymity, I just can’t remember this stuff.

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What Not to Say: #5

I came across a bit of validation for this little blog series the other day. In Christ Plays in Ten Thousand Places, Eugene Peterson writes, “We cannot be too careful about the words we use; we start out using them and they end up using us.”

All of this thinking about how to talk to each other–it’s important. Because we want to continue using our words to speak the Gospel; we do not want our words to use us–or to cause us to abuse others.

If you are just joining us, we’ve been talking about the conversation within the church on LGBT inclusion. You can read about unhelpful phrases #1, 2, 3, and 4 in previous blog posts. Today I present:

Unhelpful Phrase #5: “S/he is on the other side of the issue.”

Yes, I have used this phrase. It can be a convenient shorthand as we seek to establish allies and foes in the church struggles.

But this is not a fair or honest phrase because the term “other side” suggests that there are only two possible beliefs people can have about sexual minorities in the church. You get to vote “yes” or “no.” Then the “yes” people get to make all kinds of assumptions about the “no” people (i.e., they hate gays). And the “no” people get to make all kinds of assumptions about the “yes” people (i.e., they have no concern for sexual morality).

If you have actually listened to more than two people’s views on homosexuality and the church, though, I assume you already know that there are more than two sides.

There are people–few and far between, I trust–that do believe God hates gay people, and so should we.

And there are people–equally few, I think–who think that our sexual relationships do not matter to our spiritual health, so anything goes.

The vast majority of us are somewhere between these two positions.

Some people think “practicing homosexuals” can come to church but not join. Others think they can join but not hold office or be be ordained. Others think, “Practicing homosexual? What the heck! Those two have been together for thirty years. Surely they’re beyond the practicing stage by now.”

Some folks think homosexuality is a sin worse than most. Others consider it a sin on the same level as so many others on those vice lists like greed, envy, and disobeying your parents. Others think that sexual sins are not about the gender of the partners, but about the love, respect, and commitment between them.

There are people who believe the Bible condemns homosexuality. Others who believe the Bible doesn’t speak to committed same-sex relationships at all. And, frankly, other people–on all sides–who don’t care much what the Bible says one way or the other.

Some people think sexuality is a choice; others think it is a result of upbringing; others think it is genetic; and others think it doesn’t matter.

Some people view homosexuality as a disease to be cured. Others think that it’s O.K. to be attracted to people of the same sex as long as you don’t actually have sex with anyone of the same sex. Others think God blesses same sex committed relationships just as God blesses heterosexual committed relationships.

Obviously, I haven’t mentioned every possible belief. I don’t know how many sides there are here, but I know there are more than two–more than “my side” and the “other side.”

The second problem with phrase #5 is the word “issue.” It’s a difficult term to avoid. But the faithful mother of a lesbian daughter has shared with me how hurtful this term can be. “My daughter is not an issue, she is a person.”

So while we disagree about how the church should include sexual minorities, I hope we can agree that we should all listen more and categorize less.

Suggested Replacement Phrase: “I need to listen more so that I can better understand your position.”

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What Not to Say: #3

This is the second post in a series about phrases I find unhelpful as church folk talk about how to include LGBT people. There is only one phrase addressed here, because it is something that is said by people on all sides of the issue.

Problematic phrase #3: The church has more important things to do.

I know you like this phrase. I like this phrase. I’ve used this phrase. Some of the people I most respect have used this phrase. Still, I have decided that it is not helpful.

It is not helpful because when we say it we usually mean: “If everyone would just agree with me, we could all happily move on to evangelizing the world and/or solving the world hunger problem.”

I don’t think I’ve ever heard this phrase said in the spirit of, “Those people who disagree with me can just have things their way.”

It is also not helpful because it is an argument that could be made about practically anything church folks put their energy into. Why do you worry about Vacation Bible School or building a bigger church building when there are more important things to do? Why do you serve at the food pantry or collect money for the local homeless shelter when there are more important things to do? You could always make an argument that there is something more important than what the church is concerned with at any given moment.

If we, as the church, only want to address the MOST important things, we will be paralyzed. And we will lose the joy and freedom that is part of being in the Body of Christ. Some are eyes, some are big toes, some are spleens–who is to say that one is more important than the other?

It is also not a helpful phrase because it minimizes the experiences of those within the church for whom the church’s relationship with LGBT people is very important. Friends, allies, and sexual minorities themselves. And those on the conservative side who feel that an affirmative stance threatens the basis of their faith.

In his ministry, Jesus was quite concerned with including people the religious authorities sought to exclude. And he was concerned with calling people out of a life of sin and into an abundant life with God. The earliest church spent a lot of time and energy figuring out how to include Gentiles, which aspects of their Jewish faith were necessary parts of following Jesus.

There are no reports of anyone at the Jerusalem Council standing up and saying, “Come on folks, the church has more important things to do!”

Suggested replacement phrase: “This conversation is one of many important things the church is doing.”

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What not to Say: #1 & #2

As I talk with different people about how to include sexual minorities in the church, there are certain words and phrases that get repeated. And many of them are not helpful.  You probably won’t be surprised to know that I have a pretty long list of things we need to quit saying to each other. Rather than discuss them all in one long post, I want to take one or two at a time. So here goes:

Problematic phrase #1: “The Bible is clear . . . “ that homosexuality is a sin.

The first problem with this phrase is that the Bible is not clear. Not about homosexuality, not about a lot of things. The Bible was written in and for a culture vastly different from ours. The Bible was spoken and written in languages that few of us can speak or read today. The Bible tells contradictory stories and gives contradictory advise at many points. Anyone who believes the Bible is clear is not engaging with the scriptures in an honest and faithful way.

The second problem with this phrase is the implication behind it. When people say this, they are claiming that those who condemn same sex relationships are following the Bible, while those who affirm such relationships are throwing out the teachings of Scripture in order to accommodate secular values.

It’s not true. Many of us who want to welcome sexual minorities fully into the church take the Bible very seriously. We study it. We pray with it. We seek to live by it. And, if we’re honest, many people who oppose gay marriage have no biblical or theological basis for doing so–they just think it’s weird for two guys to be in love.

Suggested replacement phrase: “Based on my current understanding of Scripture . . . “

 

And, so as not to let the affirming contingent off the hook, I’ll go ahead with problematic phrase #2: “Jesus just wants us to love people.”

There is, of course, no literal problem with this phrase. Jesus does want us to love people. The problem is with the implication–those who view homosexuality as a sin are not loving; those who accept LGBT people are loving.

We know it’s not that simple. Love does not always mean affirming the choices that someone makes. Mennonites (and other pacifists) would say that the most faithful way to love military personnel is to speak out against war and try to help soldiers get out of active duty. Likewise, those who sincerely believe that same-sex intimate relationships are outside of God’s good will for humanity are acting out of love when they protest gay marriage and try to “rehabilitate” LGBT people.

Yes, I think this love is misguided. But just like it’s not fair for anyone to claim a monopoly on Biblical understanding, it is not fair for others to claim a monopoly on love. People on all sides can ignore the Bible. People on all sides can act in unloving ways. Most of us within the church are trying to be faithful to the teachings of Scripture and we are trying to follow the way of love that Jesus showed us.

Suggested replacement phrase: “I believe we are not fully living out the love of Christ when we (exclude gays from ministry, teach young people that their sexual identity is wrong, refuse membership to sexual minorities . . . ).”

I’ll write about more phrases we need to abandon later. What about you? What comments do you find unhelpful as we talk about issues of sexuality in the church?

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On being “At Variance”

Several people have asked how I feel about being “at variance.” I think that having the note on my Ministerial Leadership Information form is a reasonable consequence of the choice I made. And for some of the people in Western District Conference, all they wanted was for me to have some sort of consequence for going against the membership guidelines.

Trust me, there have been plenty of consequences. But if this final (?), formal consequence makes people feel better, I am glad for that. I think that the note is a means of clear communication within a denomination that increasingly has different standards of ordination from conference to conference.

So how do I feel about being labeled “at variance”?

As an Anabaptist Christian, I can’t imagine being faithful without being at variance with some of the dominant cultural norms–be they norms in the secular world or norms within the institutional church. If Jesus had had an MLI, I’m sure it would have said “at variance.”

My spiritual director reminded me that, throughout history, it has never been the case that those in power changed the rules before the rules were broken. It is always the case that a faithful minority chooses to be at variance with the established rules and then the rules change. Slavery, conscientious objection to war, racial segregation, women’s rights . . . Lots of rules were broken–outside and inside the church–before the rules changed.

So I’m glad to be at variance with a policy of the church that I find to be unfaithful and discriminatory. And I am glad to have such variance noted on my MLI.  The note is an acknowledgment of where our church policy is and a reminder of the work still ahead.

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In Praise of Church Ladies

Dana Carvey as the Church Lady on Saturday Night Live.

If you are of a certain age, you might remember “Church Chat” on Saturday Night Live. Dana Carvey’s character, the Church Lady, manifested all of the stereotypes of old, religious women. She thought very highly of herself and quite poorly of everyone else.

I can imagine being interviewed by the Church Lady: “So, you married two women . . . to each other. Well . . . isn’t that special. I see you’ve never read the Holy Bible, but somehow you are a pastor. I wonder what could have prompted you to go into ministry. Could it be . . . SATAN?”

It’s a fun stereotype to play with, but the church ladies in my world are nothing like the purple-suited talk-show host of SNL fame. In fact, these older (than me) Christian women have helped to carry me through my credential review and the negativity that followed that review; they have laid a foundation of support on which I rest as I prepare for our upcoming district conference.

There was the woman who stood behind me in the communion line at our national convention last summer. “You’re Joanna?” She said. And the minute I replied “yes” I was enveloped in powerful, life-giving hug.

There was the woman, a spiritual director I had met with once on retreat, who sat next to me during the delegate session of last year’s district conference. Her prayers held me as delegates stood up to say what they thought about the Leadership Commission’s decision to let me keep my pastoral credentials.

There are the women who have pulled me aside at various gatherings to thank me. To tell me about their son, nephew, daughter, grandson who is gay. Women with tears in their eyes. Women who love the church, but not how the church is treating some people.

And there are the women who write letters. God bless the women who write letters!

Now, don’t get me wrong. I appreciate Facebook and email notes of support. Still, there is something about a letter. Written on paper. Sent through the United States Postal Service. From hand to hand. I cherish the words from these women who want me to know that they support me, that they are praying for me. (I think there is basically an entire Mennonite retirement community praying for me these days. I can feel the prayer energy–it’s powerful stuff.)

We have a tendency to think that young people want a fully inclusive church while the older generations work to maintain the status quo. And this is simply not true. Many older people have been working and waiting for decades to see a church that embraces gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered people. They’re still working. And they’re still waiting. Along with their children and their grandchildren.

Like the Catholic nuns, these Mennonite church ladies are a force to be reckoned with. I’m glad so many of them are praying for me. And, if I know Mennonite church ladies, they’re praying for you, too.

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A Rule of Life for Activists

Photo from Mike Licht, NotionsCapital.com. Some rights reserved.

One of my sabbatical projects is to develop a Rule of Life—a set of principles and practices that will guide me, that will under-gird the busyness of life with a holy rhythm and a focus on Christ.

You won’t be surprised to know that I’ve also been spending significant time these past weeks reading, writing, and talking about how and why to include sexual minorities in Mennonite churches.

So imagine my delight when I learned today that Martin Luther King Jr. developed a Rule. It was a Rule for himself and a Rule that those who wished to join him in his efforts toward justice were expected to adopt as well.

King’s Rule is published in the book Soul Feast by Marjorie Thompson, and the rules are reprinted on various blogs and web sites around the internet. It strikes me that this Rule is one we would all do well to adopt. It is particularly relevant for pacifist Christians seeking GLBT inclusion in the churches:

 

  • Meditate daily on the teachings and life of Jesus.
  • Remember always that the nonviolent movement in Birmingham [or the GLBT inclusion movement in the church] seeks justice and reconciliation, not victory.
  • Walk and talk in the manner of love, for God is love.
  • Pray daily to be used by God in order that all might be free.
  • Observe with both friend and foe the ordinary rules of courtesy.
  • Seek to perform regular service for others and the world.
  • Refrain from violence of fist, tongue, or heart.
  • Strive to be in good spiritual and bodily health.

What do you think? Have any of the listed spiritual practices been helpful in your own life? Which part of the Rule would be most difficult for you to follow? What step can you take to follow Christ more faithfully in the coming days?

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